Question:
What is the difference between expectations and desires?
?
2011-11-19 13:12:07 UTC
Someone asked a question in y/a that what are your expectations from life partner. Someone replied, I don't have expectations from partner, I have desires. Now whats the difference here.

Also he mentioned that
for me there are no expectations for my partner. Let me explain, expectations are things that you expect to come regardless of the situation. Desires are a better thought because this brings work in progress by both people to work on the relationship instead of expecting a behavior. Desires are never broken because they are made by both individuals.

I don't understand what he means? Can anyone explain to me.
Eight answers:
veerabhadrasarma m
2011-11-20 22:43:55 UTC
in short

Expectation is an attitude associated with the future where one hopes that something will happen. Desire pertains to the present where one recognizes a current wish or longing. Expectation pertains to what ought to be. Desire is associated to what is. When we expect we demand that reality will be a particular way. Desire exists in the present.



Desire does not require the existence of expectation. Both expectation and desire are with us at all times. Expectation is rooted in desire. As we acknowledge what we want, we form expectations on how to fulfill our desires. Unconscious desires can lead to conscious or unconscious expectations. Conscious desires can lead to both conscious and unconscious expectations. Both conscious and unconscious expectations can lead to new conscious or unconscious desires. Expectations can lead to additional expectations - conscious or unconscious. Desires can lead to additional desires.



Expectations are fulfilled by the fulfillment of desires associated with them. If I plan to take a trip somewhere I desire to go to, my expectation is fulfilled by completing that trip. My desire is to go on the trip. My expectation is that I will complete this trip. If I do not complete the trip, I may still have the desire to go but my expectation of completing the trip is not fulfilled.
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2011-11-20 05:26:56 UTC
It is a most liberating experience when you are able to live life with an attitude of no expectations. When you have expectations, you have preconceived ideas of how things should be that you are attached to. Expectation creates fear because you think what you desire may or may not happen. Free of expectations, you can just go with the flow of the universe and not be affected by the outcomes that you encounter. Every outcome can serve to move you towards greater realization of your desires.



When you are attached to an outcome, you expect things to happen at a certain time in a certain way. But when it does not happen at the expected time or in the expected manner, then what results is a feeling of fear. Having expectations about how your desires should manifest will produce negative feelings when your expectations are not met. That is why it is better to act on your intention without expectations about the when and how it manifests.



Fear, doubt and worry are the last things you want to experience in the process of manifesting desires. That is why the best way to create what you want is through detachment. Act on your desires with a detached involvement. You do what you are guided to do by your heart but you do not judge the rightness of your actions by the results that you get. As long as your actions are based on purpose, you have done what you were meant to do regardless of what seems to happen from it.



When the universe is in the process of working things out for the realization of your intention, there might be things that happen which make it seem as though things are not working out. It is your expectation of how things should happen that makes you think that things are not working out. But actually you are not seeing the whole picture, because what you are seeing is only a piece of the larger scheme of events where everything is really working out the way it should.
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2016-11-20 01:38:03 UTC
expectancies are defined terrific because it relate to a reason and an impact. I dial a great selection, by utilising invoice is paid, I assume it to ring. expectancies in basic terms function in the realm of all tangible applications working precise. I ask somebody to be at paintings on time is an expectation in accordance with preset regulations. desire is far less substantiated. The Bible says faith is the substance of issues was hoping for however the data of issues no longer seen. how can data no longer be seen. This leaves desire to be complicated and in accordance with non-tangible beginnings for a tangible effect. consequently, with desire it extremely is extra supernatural. desire demands faith with the regulations absent.
LC Instructor
2011-11-19 13:59:41 UTC
I think it's this way:



EXPECTATION is something that you know you'll have in the future. So depending on the family you grow up with, you (and your family) have certain expectations of who you will marry. For example, a certain level of education, because that's how you grew up, or a certain ethnic group or language group. It's like you just wouldn't even fall in love with somebody without those characteristics.



DESIRES are what you hope for, such as tall, handsome, etc., or behaviors, such as a good dancer. Maybe you hope your future spouse will have a great sense of humor, or love to go camping.



(Of course, anybody can fall in love with anybody, regardless of what you plan for)
?
2011-11-19 13:18:25 UTC
expectation is more logical and consequential

example - you did something wrong so you expect to be punished

you did something very pleasant and you expect some award or thanks



desire is something you wish that could happen

you desire to kiss someone

you are full with desire to do something ..... with someone



get it now?
anonymous
2011-11-19 13:22:45 UTC
Expectation means hoping for something. Desire means wanting something......
4
2011-11-19 14:05:59 UTC
Expectations is rational, while desires is emotional.
?
2011-11-19 13:28:56 UTC
wish/want


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